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A Face in the Crowd or a Friend - Who Influences You?
Many times I find myself wondering if I should do a certain thing because I think it may bother or offend someone. First of all, I am not talking about giving up principles. I am talking about how you speak, act, etc. Regular life.
Now I don’t think it is wrong to be peaceable, we are counseled to not offend our brother, but some people can be really hard to please, and some times you just can’t please every one. So, what do you do? If you have to choose, who do you choose to not offend? Who influences you in the direction you take?
It would seem logical that you would be most influenced by those who are close to you. And for the most part we are. But sometimes, without even realizing it, we are influenced by the crowd around us.
Group photos can be such an event. There is usually someone in the group who wishes you’d just hurry up and take a picture, any picture. Who cares, they think. “I don’t like my picture taken” say others. But often the picture is for a special person in my life. So who am I going to try to please? The face in the crowd, who winces in boredom, or my dear friend? Seems simple, and yet I sometimes hesitate to go the extra mile to make it a good or even great shot, because I know it will take a couple more minutes and that might be too much for the face in the crowd. The face influenced me, even though my friend is more important to me. What a shame.
Well, I am glad to say, the older I get the less concerned I am about that face in the crowd. If they want to be grumpy, or show false humility, that’s up to them. I say false humility, because if it pleases someone to remember you in a photo and you make a fuss, you really aren’t being humble. And I have given joy to many of my friends with photos, especially the ones I took where I had to go out of my comfort zone to get them. (Like wading through a creek in front of a crowd and crawling up some rocks for the photo you see below. For two special girls who had just gotten baptized and wanted a memory of who was there.)

When I was in high school I didn’t try to please the crowd. Then I became an adult and slowly Satan taught me to worry about what people think. Oh, he was subtle and cunning. First it was “What will they think of Christ? You should NEVER offend someone or they may not accept God.” False! You even may remember a scripture to that effect. (see Matt 5:11)
Another situation I have seen time and time again is when someone has been offended in a particular situation by someone and will not get involved in that activity again. Example, Joe was told he didn’t do the Sabbath school program justice by a visiting preacher, so even though his friends ask him to teach Sabbath School he refuses. He is more concerned (or should I say offended) about what one stranger said, than listen to his friends who love him. He is more influenced by someone he isn’t close to, than those who care about him.
As I pondered this concept during my self-examination time, I realized that this applies to how we act for Jesus. Are we more concerned about a nebulous crowd (or even specific people) than about what God thinks? I don’t think I need to say any more. You need to ponder that question for yourself.
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